What to Do When a Man Loses Desire for His Wife? Discover Possible Causes and Treatments

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What to Do When a Man Loses Desire for His Wife? Discover Possible Causes and Treatments

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When a man occasionally loses desire for his wife, there’s no need to worry. However, if it happens frequently, it’s essential to assess if factors like stress, fatigue, or health issues are affecting his sexual life. Learn more!

It is normal for men to experience fluctuations in sexual desire throughout a relationship. Therefore, when a man loses desire for his wife occasionally, it doesn’t necessarily indicate a health problem.

The loss of desire for one’s wife can have multiple causes—physical and emotional—that may lead to insecurity and deep concerns. Understanding these reasons is crucial to restoring the couple’s quality of life.

Keep reading to learn why this happens and how to reverse the situation, bringing back a healthy and satisfying relationship, including in intimate moments.

Is it normal for a man not to feel like having sex?

Yes, at certain stages of life, men may lose interest in sexual relations due to low libido or lack of sexual interest.

This phenomenon occurs due to hormonal factors, psychological challenges, prioritization of other life areas, or even relationship wear and tear, especially in long-term partnerships.

It’s worth noting that, often, a man loses desire not only for his wife but for any sexual activity.

What causes a man to lose interest in his wife?

Several factors—whether physical, psychological, sexual dysfunctions, or temporary situations—may explain a man’s loss of desire for his wife. Key causes include:

  • Low testosterone
  • Erectile dysfunction
  • Peyronie’s disease
  • Chronic illnesses such as diabetes and hypertension
  • Obesity and/or body dissatisfaction
  • Sleep disorders
  • Relationship problems
  • Low self-esteem
  • Feelings of insecurity
  • Depression
  • Stress and anxiety

Signs that your husband has lost interest

It’s possible to notice signs that your husband has lost sexual desire.

In daily life, he might show less interest in physical closeness, avoid intimate contact, or be less willing to share intimate moments. For instance, he might stop greeting his wife with a kiss when coming home from work.

These signs may also appear during intimate moments, such as decreased sexual desire or difficulty achieving and maintaining an erection.

Occasional fluctuations are normal, but when the lack of sexual desire becomes persistent, it may indicate that the man has lost interest in his wife or in sex altogether. It’s important to know how to address the situation.

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What to do when your husband loses interest in his wife?

When the husband loses interest in his wife—or at least seems to—it’s essential for her to understand that this is not a personal failure. Loss of desire extends beyond individual responsibility.

Addressing this issue with sensitivity and respect allows both partners to work through the situation without causing harm. Open communication can ease tensions and create a safe space to explore the challenges and identify the reasons behind the distance. Avoid judgment and undue pressure.

Engaging in shared activities that strengthen the emotional bond and promote relaxation can also help.

Additionally, encouraging her husband to seek medical advice is key to understanding the root causes of this change.

Diagnosing the problem

To identify the reasons behind a loss of libido, visiting a doctor is crucial.

A urologist can request tests to evaluate potential hormonal imbalances, such as low testosterone, investigate chronic illnesses, or collaborate with mental health professionals to uncover psychological factors.

Recommended treatments

For many men, realizing their libido has decreased toward their wife can be unsettling. However, it’s important to remember that this situation can be resolved. There are various treatments to help men overcome the loss of sexual desire for their wife.

When the cause is physical, treatments for erectile dysfunction or hormone adjustment might be recommended. For Peyronie’s disease, surgical intervention could be necessary. Addressing other underlying conditions, such as chronic illnesses, is equally important.

Meanwhile, sexual therapy can effectively address emotional challenges and improve communication between partners.

Adopting a healthy lifestyle often yields significant results.

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Tips for maintaining libido throughout life

Maintaining good sexual health and preventing a loss of male libido requires attention to physical and mental well-being throughout life. It’s essential to:

  1. Prioritize a healthy diet and avoid alcohol consumption
  2. Abstain from smoking, alcohol, and drugs
  3. Incorporate relaxation and leisure activities into daily life
  4. Engage in regular physical exercise
  5. Stay up-to-date with medical check-ups

Seek medical help for any changes in your sexual health

When a man loses desire for his wife, it’s natural for doubts and insecurities to arise. If persistent changes in libido, difficulties with erections, or penile anatomical changes are observed, it’s essential to seek medical guidance.

Male loss of sexual desire and related symptoms may indicate health conditions that require treatment, and the sooner they are addressed, the better.

Professionals like Dr. Paulo Egydio can provide the necessary support to help men regain a fulfilling sexual life with their spouse.

With dialogue, empathy, and professional guidance, most couples can find a way to make intimate moments enjoyable again. Contact the doctor!

Read more:

Paulo Egydio, M.D.

PhD in Urology from USP, CRM 67482-SP, RQE 19514, Author of Geometric Principles (known as “Egydio Technique”), as well as other articles and scientific books in the area. Guest professor to teach classes and live surgeries at conferences in Brazil and abroad.

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